Marple Family Law https://marplefamilylaw.com Divorce Lawyer in Atlanta Wed, 11 Jan 2023 09:44:26 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.1 https://marplefamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/favicon.png Marple Family Law https://marplefamilylaw.com 32 32 Three options for splitting a vacation home in a divorce https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2021/12/20/three-options-for-splitting-a-vacation-home-in-a-divorce/ Mon, 20 Dec 2021 05:30:32 +0000 https://marplerubin.com/?p=1421 For many couples, vacation homes are more emotionally weighted than other assets. It may be the beach house where your kids learned how to swim, or the mountain home where you’d find peace after a busy workweek. Sometimes, a vacation property is also a labor of love—a location you picked, a lot you built out and a home you decorated.

But, in a divorce, vacation homes are high-value assets, and as emotionally invested as you may be, it’s smart to look at them through a financial lens. Most couples will choose one of three options for their vacation home: sell it, share it or stay.

Selling your vacation home

Once you’ve decided to divorce, you’ll want to have your vacation property appraised. Even if you don’t ultimately sell, you’ll have a good understanding of its current value. Most divorcing couples choose to sell and share the proceeds as it provides the opportunity for a clean slate and financial independence from each other. While it may feel hard to sell and move on from a home you love, it’s sometimes the smartest move.

Share the vacation home 

If you and your soon-to-be-former spouse both love the home or you imagine your kids vacationing there for years to come, you may wish to share it. But it’s critical that you’re realistic about how the agreement will work. Would you prefer to buy the property outright but just don’t have the funds? Are you comfortable co-owning property with your ex? If so, you’ll want a written agreement in place detailing:

  • Who is responsible for mortgage payments
  • How you’ll handle repairs and updates
  • How you will schedule use
  • How you will manage rentals if you also rent out the property
  • What you’ll do if one party wants to sell
  • What you’ll do if one party passes away

Staying in your vacation home

If you’re sure you want the home, you may choose to buy out your spouse’s share. If you’re financially able to do so, this can be a great choice, as it allows you to keep the property you love without mingling your finances with your ex. However, you need to be clear-eyed about the expenses and effort it takes to manage a vacation property and be sure you’re comfortable handling everything on your own. Because a vacation home is not your primary residence, you’ll also need to understand the tax implications of property transfers in divorce vs. true sales after a divorce.

Ultimately, it’s smart for divorcing couples to come to an agreement that’s in their best financial interests rather than let attachment to the home cloud the picture. Co-owning a home that made you happy with someone who makes you unhappy doesn’t always work well. By speaking with an experienced divorce attorney, you can create an agreement that’s to your best advantage and keep the decision of who gets the home out of court.

Schedule your consultation today with an Atlanta family lawyer 

Vacation homes may complicate the divorces of high-net-worth families. The divorce attorneys at Marple Family Law have years of experience working with clients who have vacation properties. Contact us today to schedule a consultation to move your divorce forward as efficiently and effectively as possible.

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What makes a prenuptial agreement invalid? https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2021/12/16/what-makes-a-prenuptial-agreement-invalid/ Thu, 16 Dec 2021 19:20:47 +0000 https://marplerubin.com/?p=1419 A fair and well-written prenuptial agreement can help couples gain a strong picture of their finances before the marriage even begins. If, eventually, they decide to divorce, it can also make the process move more smoothly, helping avoid acrimony, preserve business interests and save on legal costs.

But not every prenuptial agreement is fair and well written. Mistakes, misrepresentation and other factors can invalidate a prenuptial agreement. How do you know if your prenuptial agreement will hold up in court?

Protections offered by a prenuptial agreement

Prenuptial agreements document individual property and debts (something that’s necessary in the event of a divorce) and plan for how marital property will be divided in a split or after one party passes away. While many couples use prenuptial agreements as a way to start married life on the same page financially, they’re especially important for:

  • High-net-worth individuals, who can protect the interests of both parties with a fair agreement
  • Individuals with kids from a previous relationship, who can leave their kids property and assets while also providing for the surviving spouse
  • Business owners, who can avoid struggles over control and assets in a divorce
  • Stay-at-home parents, who can put financial provisions in place to partly compensate for their years away from the workforce
  • Individuals expecting a large inheritance, who may choose to clarify that the inheritance will not become marital property
  • Individuals with large debts, who may protect their partner and marital property from personal or business debts

When is a prenup invalid?

While a prenuptial agreement can obviously touch on many points important to the couple, judges won’t respond well to outright unfairness or offensive and restrictive provisions (for example, unenforceable expectations placed on appearance, marital relations or marital responsibilities).

Prenuptial agreements may also become invalid if:

  • The agreement is fraudulent: Covering up debts or hiding assets may make the entire document unenforceable.
  • One party was coerced: Both parties have to enter the agreement freely in order for it to be valid. Presenting a prenup days or hours before the wedding may invalidate the document. Each spouse should be able to have his or her own counsel review the agreement before signing.
  • The agreement is unconscionable: A lopsided agreement, where one party sacrifices much of his or her marital property may lead to the court throwing out the prenup.
  • The agreement signed away the rights of future kids. Prenups cannot set terms around child support or custody.

Precise language only strengthens a prenuptial agreement, while promises about intentions—like discarding it after 10 years of marriage or the birth of children—will weaken it.

Schedule your consultation today with an Atlanta family lawyer 

If you already signed a prenuptial agreement and you believe it was unfair, you’ll want to speak with a divorce attorney. Prenuptial agreements are contracts, and they may be challenging to deviate from if they were created correctly. But a divorce attorney can help determine if there are any factors that invalidate the prenup.

The divorce attorneys at Marple Family Law have years of experience working with clients who have prenuptial agreements. Contact us today to schedule a consultation to move your divorce forward as efficiently and effectively as possible.

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Child Support & Custody for High Earners https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2021/11/29/child-support-custody-for-high-earners/ Tue, 30 Nov 2021 03:21:04 +0000 https://marplerubin.com/?p=1394 For many Georgia families, the state’s approach to determining child support works adequately. At its most basic, the income shares model approximates the overall family costs for the children based on the parents’ combined income, which includes: housing, food, tuition, medical expenses and childcare. That amount is then prorated based on the parents’ incomes, with the parent paying child support to the other parent. If it requires adjusting, the court can make those adjustments, for instance lowering the payments of the higher earning parent if he or she already cares for the kids more of the time.

With high-net-worth families, such calculations are often used as an initial guide for the court. Family expenses may be much higher than presumed amounts, with private school tuition, sports and lesson fees, nanny salaries, and vacation and camp expenses. Sometimes, the parents’ income levels are also substantially different, as with a high-earner and a stay-at-home parent. Without proper attention during the divorce, one parent could end up with an unreasonable financial burden—or face the difficult choice of sacrificing comforts to which a child may be accustomed.

Creating a child support plan

In every divorce with children, the court aims to ensure children see both parents and have a relationship with them, and child support plays an important role.

The parenting plan will determine physical and legal custody and visitation including summer and holidays. If parents are unable to reach an agreement, the court ultimately makes a plan based on the best interests of the children.

Parents also have the ability to create their own child support plan before the court makes a plan on their behalf. No matter how contentious the divorce, it is critical for high-earning families to collaborate at this stage in order to ensure the impact on the children is minimized as much as possible.

Prenuptial agreements have no bearing on child custody or child support.

Child support considerations for high-net-worth families

When creating a child support plan, it is important to be as detailed as possible. Otherwise, you can end up trying to fund a lifestyle your children are accustomed to but that you cannot afford, or, conversely, wind up shouldering an unfair percentage of the financial burden. Here are few considerations families should keep in mind:

  • Tuition: While you cannot force your ex to keep paying private school tuition forever, you can provision for educational expenses during your divorce. If your kids are accustomed to their private school and have thrived there, this is an important consideration.
  • College: The court will not impose child support beyond age 18 or past high school graduation, so parents expecting to share the financial responsibility of college tuition and expenses should plan ahead. Parents can agree that child support will continue through college or decide how their expenses will be paid.
  • Childcare and activities: For younger children, parents will need to discuss nanny or au pair salaries or preschool costs. As children grow, sports fees and the cost of lessons and tutoring must also be considered.
  • Travel and experiences: If the children are accustomed to travel or if parents live far away from each other, parents need to decide who will pay for these experiences and travel expenses.
  • Medical expenses: Like all families, parents will have to consider how to pay for their children’s uncovered medical expenses, especially if a child has special needs or other known costs.

Child support modifications are possible after a time as needs or resources change. Remarriage or sudden job loss will also open up the possibility of a change. The court will view parents who try to purposefully decrease their income in order to pay lower child support unfavorably.

Schedule your consultation today with an Atlanta family lawyer 

Determining child support can be complex for high-net-worth families. The divorce attorneys at Marple Family Law have years of experience working with clients who have complicated family expenses. We can help you move through the process in a way that’s least disruptive to the kids involved. Contact us today to schedule a consultation to move your divorce forward as efficiently and effectively as possible.

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How does the value of you or your spouse’s professional practice fit into the divorce settlement? https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2021/10/25/value-of-professional-practice-in-divorce-settlement/ Mon, 25 Oct 2021 15:46:35 +0000 https://marplerubin.com/?p=1287 While any high-net-worth divorce presents challenging financial separations, it’s particularly tricky when one spouse owns a professional practice. Doctors, attorneys, accountants and therapists spend years building their businesses—obtaining advanced degrees, launching their practices, hiring top-tier staff and earning the trust of patients and clients. It’s their life’s work: a huge investment of education, time and resources. That’s why it’s often so nerve-racking for professionals to know that the business could be pulled into the divorce.  

For the spouse not involved in the practice, a large part of the family’s assets may be tied up in the business. The spouse may have made sacrifices to the practice’s growth over the years, helping support educational goals, attending events, lending expertise or taking on extra household duties. Financially, it’s often critical that the business be factored into the divorce settlement. 

Because Georgia is an equitable distribution of property state, marital property must be divided fairly. In most cases, a professional practice is considered marital property, even if the practicing spouse owned it before the marriage. But that doesn’t mean that the court will split up the business or force a sale. Instead, it means that the practice’s value will be factored into the settlement. In the case of a practice that existed before the marriage, the settlement will focus more narrowly on its increase in value from the time of the marriage to the divorce. 

How professional practices are valued 

During a divorce, lawyers will compile all the assets that are part of the marital estate. If this includes a professional practice, that means the business has to be ready to open up its books. (Finances only—a practice will never have to share private patient or client information with divorce attorneys.) 

The good news is that professional practice valuation happens all the time, and not just for asset discovery. Bringing in a new business partner, selling a practice or merging with another firm all also require valuing a business. Still, divorce valuation can be a little different. The goal is to obtain information on the value but otherwise keep the business running normally. 

Ideally, attorneys try to determine the present net fair market value: what a buyer would pay for the firm, minus the business’ debts. The valuation expert also considers retirement accounts, pensions, contingency fees and goodwill, or the added value of a good reputation. Everything is then benchmarked against the value at the time of marriage. 

Once the growth is valued, the business-owning spouse offsets the business assets with something else in the divorce settlement, though monetary awards are also possible.  

Considerations when splitting a professional practice 

Because marital property must be divided fairly, though not necessarily equally, judges have a fair amount of leeway in determining how to split assets. The court considers the earning power of each spouse, financial needs and any bad behavior, like trying to conceal assets.  

This is why, if you own a professional practice, it’s so important to continue running it normally during a divorce. Trying to liquidate assets or depress the business’ value will only create problems. Conversely, if you suspect that your spouse is trying to manipulate the practice’s value, you need an Atlanta divorce attorney to ensure you get your fair settlement.  

Ultimately, it’s expensive and time consuming to value a professional practice, requiring many hours of work from financial experts. Ideally, couples can agree on one trusted business evaluator, and their attorneys can help them reach a productive resolution that keeps the business running smoothly and fairly compensates the spouse who does not own the practice.  

Schedule your consultation today with an Atlanta divorce lawyer 

Valuing a professional practice is one of the most complex aspects of high-net-worth divorces. The divorce attorneys at Marple Family Law have years of experience working with clients who have valuable professional practices. We can help you move through the process thoroughly and quickly. Contact us today to schedule a consultation to move your divorce forward as efficiently and effectively as possible. 

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Why DIY Divorces are a Huge Mistake in Georgia https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2021/05/09/why-a-diy-divorce-is-a-huge-mistake/ Mon, 10 May 2021 00:42:36 +0000 https://marplerubinfam.wpengine.com/?p=524 There are plenty of perfectly acceptable things to pursue as a “do-it-yourself” (DIY) project…divorce is not one of them! Unfortunately, the consequences of a DIY divorce in the Atlanta area can be dire for your bank account. Read on to find out why a highly skilled and experienced divorce lawyer is a necessity.

What Makes A Good Divorce Lawyer

If you’re getting a divorce, listen up! We cannot emphasize the importance of hiring a divorce lawyer enough. In the Atlanta region, there are plenty of family law practices, but be sure you are selecting one that is well-versed in the process and procedures specific to state and county  laws. A qualified divorce lawyer will provide the following assistance:

  • Help with complex paperwork: Many individuals underestimate the complexity of the forms involved when filing for divorce. DIY divorces tend to occur more often with couples undergoing a “simple divorce,” so to speak. These couples were usually only married for a short period of time, with simple assets to split and typically no children. Simple divorce or not, the forms are heavily involved and best completed with expert counsel.
  • Aid in tackling procedural requirements: Depending on which county you are filing in, there are specific self-imposed filing requirements and customs, some of which are quite particular. If the applicant is uninformed, they could spend countless hours trying to fight the system for their decree. County courts do not post any sort of divorce forms or detailed information on their website for public consumption. Additionally, online filing services usually aren’t aware about county (or state) specific nuances either.  This is where the expertise of a divorce lawyer local to Atlanta, will pay off in large dividends.
  • Advice in navigating the divorce process: This process can be complicated and those who go it alone sometimes try to rely on the court clerk. Yet, your county court clerk is not a customer service representative! These individuals are not permitted to provide any type of assistance that may be interpreted as legal advice. They will direct you to retain a lawyer, or send you to the basement library to look up the required forms needed in old law books. You’ll need the help of a localized divorce lawyer to efficiently begin the process.

What To Expect From Your Divorce Lawyer

If you’ve decided on divorce and not a DIY divorce, you surely want the process to be over as quickly as possible. Divorces in the U.S. can take anywhere from 3-12 months from beginning to end. The time frame is often determined by how the divorce is filed, as well as the type of legal issues that must be settled. A divorce lawyer will help to speed up the division of debts and assets among the former couple. Terms for child support and custody are also determined with advocacy set forth by your divorce lawyer. Your attorney will manage any sort of dispute resolution, which can lengthen divorce proceedings, if not handled by a professional.

In the Atlanta area, the best way to proceed with a divorce is to consult an attorney with multiple years of experience. When your divorce is placed on hold, so is your life. This delay can be incredibly frustrating and expensive. Call, or schedule an online consultation, with Marple Family Law today to move your divorce forward as efficiently and effectively as possible.

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Tips on Co-parenting during the Holidays https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2020/12/10/tips-on-co-parenting-during-the-holidays/ Thu, 10 Dec 2020 20:59:13 +0000 https://marplerubinfam.wpengine.com/?p=788 Being in a co-parenting situation following a divorce or child custody dispute can be stressful at the best of times, but the holidays can create an additional level of anxiety. Questions will often arise as to where the children should spend a particular holiday, and you may find yourself pulled in various directions by different family members. Trying to keep everyone happy often proves to be an impossible task. Nevertheless, there are some practices you can set up with your co-parent that will help things run more smoothly and ensure the best possible holiday experience for your children.

The first thing to realize is that it is not all about you. Yes, you may have legitimate grievances with regards to your co-parent, but now is not the time to air those concerns or dwell on what happened years ago. Successful co-parenting is going to require that you both “act like grownups” and put the past aside in the interests of your children and their happiness. From a personal standpoint, dwelling on anger and resentment is not healthy for you too. However, if you are both willing to work together and compromise, there is no reason that you cannot have a joyous holiday season.

One possible alternative that works for many families is to simply alternate holidays. For example, if dad has the kids for Christmas, then mom will have them for New Year’s Eve/Day. The following year these holidays will flip, and each parent will have the children on a different day. Another possibility is to split the holiday. Perhaps mom will have the children for lunch on Thanksgiving Day and then take them to dad’s house in the evening to spend time with their father. It is important to remember that flexibility is critical; inevitably, there will be last-minute changes and unforeseen issues that crop up. While it may be tempting to get angry and lash out at your co-parent, you should resist that urge and keep the focus squarely on your children and what is best for them.

In some families, you may be fortunate enough to maintain reasonably good relations with your co-parent. In cases such as this, you might want to consider spending the entire holiday together as an extended family. The benefit of this approach is that you can spend the whole day with your children without taking the time to drive them from one parent’s house to the other. It is a more efficient process and provides greater stability for the kids. Of course, you should only do this if you are prepared to bite your tongue if necessary and avoid getting into any arguments or disagreements with your co-parent, as that is likely to ruin what should be a special day for everyone. Co-parenting is never easy, but with a little willingness to compromise, you should be able to enjoy a pleasant holiday with your family and create positive memories for your children that will last a lifetime.

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The Solvable Mystery of Hidden Marital Assets and/or Income https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2020/07/15/the-solvable-mystery-of-hidden-marital-assets-and-or-income/ Thu, 16 Jul 2020 00:42:59 +0000 https://marplerubinfam.wpengine.com/?p=526 In a perfect world, your spouse will be transparent and honest about assets and income during the divorce process. A Domestic Relations Financial Affidavit (DRFA), listing all income, expenses, assets, and liabilities is required in divorce proceedings to help the court make educated decisions regarding alimony (i.e., spousal support), child support, and/or property division. A party will have to sign a Verification swearing under oath that the contents of the DRFA are true and correct. Submitting inaccurate information or hiding assets/income to reduce one’s financial obligations can result in negative consequences.

Here are a few clues that your spouse may have financial secrets to uncover:

  • Neglecting to give access to banking information;
  • Spending more money than he or she is known to earn;
  • Emptying a joint checking account right before filing for divorce;
  • Having more than one bank account or mailing address; and
  • Traveling to countries with minimal tax laws, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Any of these signs could imply that your spouse is depleting the marital estate or racking up debt to minimize his or her potential financial obligations in the divorce. Regardless, it is critical you report suspicious behavior to your Georgia family law attorney as soon as possible. They will be able to help you gather proper evidence to bring to court. Record any and all evidence of hidden assets: photographs, screenshots of texts or other social media/dating sites, or anything that proves spending that does not align with known income.

A Family Law Attorney is Your Co-Detective

It can be challenging to prove that your partner is hiding assets or income. Fortunately, your family law attorney has the means to discover the truth in a litigation process called “discovery,” through which information and associated documents are formally demanded. One of these “discovery” pleadings can request immediate production of documents. In other words, your Georgia family law attorney can legally require your spouse to come clean about their bank statements, credit card information, retirement documents, and more. Furthermore, the Georgia law permits your attorney to send formal subpoenas to your spouse’s bank or other financial institutions requiring them to directly produce the requested materials regarding your spouse. If he or she does not cooperate with your attorney’s request, then a court order can be sought to force compliance and impose sanctions for failing to comply with the discovery process.

Other measures can be taken to prove your suspicions. A family law attorney can recommend a number of expert forensic accountants to closely examine your spouse’s financial activity in order to discover hidden assets and income. The forensic accountant has the ability to gather evidentiary support to be used in your defense during court proceedings.

This article simply scratches the surface of a matter involving your spouse hiding income or assets during a divorce proceeding in Georgia. The highly experienced family law attorneys at Marple Family Law are here to guide you through the deep complexities of the process. Call us today at 770-884-4000 or schedule a consultation through marplefamilylaw.com.

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What to Expect at an Initial Consultation https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2020/06/16/what-to-expect-at-an-initial-consultation-with-a-georgia-family-law-attorney/ Wed, 17 Jun 2020 00:40:24 +0000 https://marplerubinfam.wpengine.com/?p=521 Every case is unique and the attorneys at Marple Family Law want to give you the best possible advice, so here are a few helpful tips to make the most of your initial consultation.

Whether it is a divorce or other family law matter, we will start with obtaining background information about your marriage, such as the date of your marriage, name(s) and age(s) of your child(ren), employment history, earnings history, and the composition of the marital estate (e.g., assets and liabilities), including any property that you had at the time of the marriage or acquired during the marriage by inheritance, third-party gift, or personal injury settlement. During this initial information gathering time, it is important to point out any special circumstances that effect you, your spouse, and/or any of your children, such as any medical, physical, or developmental limitations.

Please know that all conversations with our attorneys are confidential and privileged under Georgia law. It is crucial that you are completely open and honest in discussing all aspects of your marriage with us so that we can assess the facts of your case and how Georgia law may apply to your situation. We need to know the good, the bad, and the ugly about your spouse and you. Even if it is bad fact against you, we need to know this information so we can help protect you against it. It is imperative that we are not blindsided by it at a deposition or trial, so we have time to work with you in crafting an appropriate response and strategy to address the unfavorable issue.

It is often helpful to bring pertinent documents to the initial consultation. If it is a divorce consultation, then it is helpful to bring materials related to income (e.g., recent tax returns, current paystubs, etc.), assets (e.g., bank accounts, investment accounts, retirement accounts, real estate, business interests, trusts, vehicles, college savings accounts, etc.), and liabilities (e.g., credit cards, loans, etc.). Please also bring any Prenuptial or Postnuptial Agreements, including any attachments thereto such as financial statements or tax returns.

If it is a custody and/or support modification consultation, then please also bring prior court orders and key pleadings from those cases, such as any parenting plans, settlement agreements, and/or child support worksheets.

If you have been served, then please bring all pleadings that you were provided and be prepared to tell us when and how you were served, which is important in determining response deadlines.

Please come with a list of questions or concerns about your situation. We are here to help you and make you feel comfortable with the process. That being said, every case is different and what you find on the internet may not be applicable to your case for a variety of reasons that we will explore during the consultation.

Finally, you can expect the appointment to last approximately an hour, though it can last longer with complex issues. You will experience the patience and understanding of our experienced attorneys during your consultation. Please contact us at 770-884-4000 or visit our website at marplefamilylaw.com to schedule a consultation.

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Six Tips to Reduce Stress During a Divorce https://marplefamilylaw.com/blog/2020/05/02/six-tips-to-reduce-stress-during-a-divorce/ Sun, 03 May 2020 00:21:52 +0000 https://marplerubinfam.wpengine.com/?p=510 During a trying time like divorce proceedings, you may be experiencing increased anxiety. In an attempt to lessen the burden, we’ve compiled six areas of focus to make the lengthy process less burdensome on your life:

1. Don’t go through it alone.

It often helps to talk with a trusted friend and/or family member who can act as a sounding board when difficult moments arise during the divorce process. In addition to religious leaders, there are many therapists and licensed counselors in Georgia who specialize in helping patients navigate through a divorce. There are also numerous support groups, both in person and digital, available for those in various stages of the divorce process. Give yourself the freedom to express yourself authentically instead of keeping the stress built up inside. Isolating yourself can increase your stress levels and compromise your career, relationships, and overall health. If you’re not ready to share your emotions, then a divorce journal is a wonderful tool for releasing your internal dialogue. Etsy.com is a great resource to find a journal that is designed to bring you peace and joy.

2. Cohesively decide what to tell the kids. Do not involve them in conflict.

One major cause of divorce stress is the feeling of guilt when kids are involved. Make a list of all the reasons this decision will benefit them in the long term. Attach it to your bathroom mirror, computer, or anything you see on a daily basis.

Here is our advice on how to help children of all ages cope with divorce:

How To Help Children of All Ages Cope With Divorce

Avoid arguing with or talking negatively about one another in front of them. Don’t use them as messengers or make them take sides. If possible, discuss the topic with your spouse in private and devise a plan on how to tell your children about the divorce, and attempt to relay the news across a united front. Make sure you emphasize that your divorce is not their fault. Listen to and ease their concerns, and be compassionate but direct in your responses. Have a calm discussion with them about what they can expect in the future. Encourage them to ask questions and share their emotions with you. Be aware of the fact that children take anxiety cues from their parents, so it is important that you monitor your own behavior around them throughout this process. If necessary, involve school counselors or professional children’s therapists to provide alternative outlets for your children to express their feelings during the process.

3. Take care of your body

It is not uncommon for those who are going through a stressful time in their lives to engage in extreme dietary habits. Try to avoid either end of the spectrum by maintaining a regular routine and keeping your pantry stocked with healthy items. Keep a journal or use an app such as My Fitness Pal to log your meals and eating habits. Don’t use alcohol, drugs or cigarettes as a way to cope; as they will likely lead to more problems. Ask your friends to help you maintain healthy habits during the divorce process by checking in on you often and holding you accountable. Keep to your normal routines as much as possible. Try to avoid making major decisions or changes in life plans.

Exercise is also a good outlet to reduce stress and take care of your body. Your physical health impacts your mental health, which can significantly affect your overall well-being in many ways. Even if you did not regularly exercise before, it would help to try new activities during the divorce case to help reduce stress and productively channel your thoughts and energy. Yoga, meditation, or daily walks are good options that you can easily add to your daily routine. Reconnect with things you enjoy doing apart from your spouse – take time to enjoy life and make new friends.

4. Avoid heated arguments with your spouse.

When you feel a fight with your spouse coming on, walk away, hang up the phone or put down the keyboard and calmly suggest that you both try talking again later. Take a few minutes to calm down to avoid engaging in a power struggle that you know will not end well. By not immediately responding to a harsh comment or an antagonistic email, you can take control of the situation and show your spouse that you are not going to let this interfere with your time. Always remember that anything you say or write can be used against you in court. Please also feel free to consult with your attorney before responding if needed. Rest assured that there is an end in sight, and your attorney is working hard to bring this chapter of life to a conclusion.

5. Attack stress at the source.

Imagine your stress as weeds in a garden. In order to prevent them from taking over, it’s critical to remove their roots. Is your stress caused by uncertainty with finances? Meet with a financial advisor. Brainstorm additional income channels with your entrepreneurial friends. Make a game plan in every worst-case scenario you might be imagining.

Does the idea of co-parenting cause anxiety? See a counselor that specializes in dual-household families. Seek online support groups who can connect you with individuals going through the same reality. Divorcedhumans.com is a great resource. Reduce your stress with proactivity. Although it may seem life is spinning out of control, you are the one ultimately behind the wheel. Take your power back.

6. Find a great lawyer who can advocate for your best interests in the divorce.

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Having a knowledgeable and experienced attorney can mean fewer bumps in the road. Surround yourself with supportive friends and professionals who are on your side. It’s easy to feel isolated during a divorce. Your attorney will reassure you as often as you need how common they are. Regardless of how circumstances may seem, you are not alone. This too shall pass.

If you would like to learn more about the attorneys at Marple Family Law or schedule a consultation, please contact us at 770-884-4000 or visit marplefamilylaw.com.

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